Welcome from Momma D

Why in the world am I writing a blog?  I honestly have no idea!  I have four kids, and last year the youngest left for college.  I spent months on Pinterest looking for ideas for his dorm and weeks ordering in "essentials" that I was sure he would need.  I joined all of the social media groups for his college and incessantly sent him screenshots and links of all of the things that I thought he should know, do, take part in.

The result? At the end of the year he had made a handful of friends, he did not join the clubs or go to all of the activities, he missed deadlines and emails, many of the "essentials" were never used. BUT, he passed his freshman year and decided to go back! He is even looking forward to going back- without me.

I, on the other hand, am not quite sure how well I have survived. The baby has left the nest. For real! So what the heck does that mean for me?  I mean I have a fairly successful professional job, an amazing husband, a dog, a house, and now that no kids are at home I now have the freedom to snowbird, travel, do what I want.  Hell, I can walk around the house a la natural if I wanted to.  I am free! I should be celebrating.

So what in the world is wrong with me? Why has this year been so hard for me? Can you tell me- WHAT am I supposed to do now? It is like I lost all of my momma super powers.

I am no longer running to practices or school events.  There is no longer anyone who needs help with homework or finding an outfit that actually matches for that dance. I have no one to run to the doctor. And holy moly, what do I do with all of these groceries that I am so used to buying? Super Mom has been prematurely retired!

So now I am here.  Writing a blog as an empty nester momma trying to find her new super powers. Is there hope for me?  I think so.  The year of waiting for someone to need me to swoop in and save them has ended.  It is time for the next phase- the what comes next.

Join me.  It proves to be interesting for sure!

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